She lived on her own, paid her own bills, and took care of herself.......
My mother at the age of 85 was a dynamo.
She lived on her own, paid her own bills, and took care of herself. She had been doing this for more than ten years since the death of my father. She was on her own.
My mother was often spotted walking to the pool in her community (most of the residents drive).
A tiny women the senior citizens all around her marveled. It seemed as if father time had forgotten about her. There was no limit to what she could do. Walk 20 blocks, no problem, you name it. Up at dawn and awake at midnight she was a real dynamo.
My mother was very funny, a real character. She made people laugh and smile. She read the paper and watched CNN, she had an opinion on everything and wanted to know your opinion.
My mother was a wonderful person: always welcoming people into her home. Everyone raved about her great Italian cooking. I remember as a kid that all of my friends really looked forward to staying over our house. Donuts, spaghetti and meatballs you name it. Ravioli anyone?
Me? I was there with my mother when my fathered "passed away'; this was when I really started thinking about her longevity, her health (she was 76). I was thinking about her for years knowing that someday she had to live with one of us (I have a brother and sister). As the years flew by I started to think about it more and more. In the meantime, she just kept going ang going without a health problem of any kind. She was the real energizer bunny.
At times, my brother, sister and I had discussions about putting my mother into some kind of "facility". To be honest, to be honest now, I knew I would never be able to do it. While I had only mentioned it to a few people, I had made a promise to my father not long before he died. I promised him no matter what, I would take care of his wife of 55 years, my mother, our love. Dorothy. It was not a promise I made haphazardly. I made up my mind about this while we were taking care of my dying father. It seemed as natural to me as breathing. I already knew in my mind and my heart, I was the one.
I knew the day would come. I just didn't know when. Or how.
And then, out of the clear blue sky, dementia struck....
|Bob DeMarco is an Alzheimer's caregiver and editor of the Alzheimer's Reading Room. The Alzheimer's Reading Room is the number one website on the Internet for insight into Alzheimer's disease. Bob taught at the University of Georgia, was an executive at Bear Stearns, the CEO of IP Group, and is a mentor. He has written more than 600 articles with more than 11,000 links on the Internet. Bob resides in Delray Beach, FL.|
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